SB pet passed away

I’ve been with my current SB for almost a year. We have a great arrangement and while I’m very happy, I don’t love her. Nothing that she’s done, and she’s a wonderful person, I just don’t fall hard like I used too. I think she feels the same about me.

Mid way through 2024 her dog was diagnosed with an aggressor form of cancer. We go through it together, surgery, chemo, more surgery, infections, until this week, when she decides it’s time to call the fight. Today she (we) said goodbye. It was insanely hard.

I can be a pretty calloused person….but I’m a fucking absolute baby when it comes to dogs. I’m here bawling my eyes out and fighting every urge to reach out and try to emotionally comfort her. I want to be there for her right now, but I also want to avoid getting too close emotionally, because it’ll just make things worse when it’s time to move on. I want to care for and support her, but I don’t want have this event create an emotional co-dependency. Yes, I know I’m fucked up.

So help me out SLF, what can I do for her that’s appropriate for losing a loved pet without swooping in with roses and chocolates? She doesn’t like traveling. Also, give your fur babies an extra hug tonight, they’re the best.

EDIT: Thank you all for the lovely suggestions. Spa day and meals for the week to start and flowers are inevitable. I’ll break my own rules for a bit.