Mind games and projection from SD

Me (25F) and my SD (60M) have been having some issues lately. I’ve realized he projects a lot of his issues onto me and I’m starting to get upset. I really try to keep my cool but when it seems like you’re trying to make me feel like shit about myself as a way to deflect from your own insecurities, now I’m about to cuss you out. I’ve done everything he has asked me to do. I’ve been patient and taken things slow sexually. I’ve tried to initiate and ultimately get rejected. He gets upset with me because I’m not talking about “us” enough. What the fuck does that even mean? I say “I appreciate you coming to the city and us spending time with eachother during the day” he responds with “well maybe you should find someone you can go party with”. WHEN THE FUCK DID I MENTION PARTYING?!? I had to take deep breaths at lunch today and almost started crying because I’m getting fed the fuck up. I notice if I bring something up about him he will find some bullshit issue that’s not even an issue to take the attention off of him. I’m more annoyed than anything because he constantly talks about sex and makes sexual jokes and even try’s to tell me I need To do this and that but when it comes down to it, he will tell me to stop. Do not complain about sex when you’re the reason it isn’t happening. I’m really trying to keep my cool here but there comes a point where it’s like what do you even do? Your sexual performance issues aren’t my problem. I told him that and I told him to figure it out and stop making it seem like I’m the issue because I’m not. He just was silent which pissed me off more. Don’t be passive now. You guys, I’m trying here but I’m starting to get angry.