My Narc dad accidentally killed my family's parrot and is berating me for grieving.

Friday, my dad who does not live with us comes over unannounced and runs up to my mom's bedroom with treats for the dogs. The parrot who was out of her cage with my mom flies off her when he bursts in and shortly after he steps on it. The parrot is clearly dying and my mom is cradling it, he says "not to change the subject but ..." and asks about a bedframe he wants as my mom holds the dying animal in her hands. My stepdad walks in who is closest to the bird out of anyone in the house sees what happened and immediately breaks down crying.

My dad then walks to me who downstairs didn't hear what was going on and has a conversation about said bedframe casually starting it with "You know i would never hurt an animal right?". after 5 minutes my sister informed me of what happened and i run up to see the lifeless bird. I'm devastated and start crying too. I look to find my other sister to let her know and i find her and my dad talking about how insane we are for caring about the animal. I don't know what to do at that moment, even though I've known he was a narc for half my life, I've never been hurt like hearing him disregard the life of what i viewed as loved family member. I just head back upstairs and cry with my family. My dad leaves without saying a word.

I've never tragically lost a pet or family member before so i took this pretty hard. A day later my dad comes over and acts as if nothing happened. When everyone doesn't want to talk to him he flips out and calls us addicts for being this upset about the bird. He then storms out and an hour later texts an apology for screaming to my mom.

My entire family has grieved all weekend. He even after his outburst has continually messaged me stupid bullshit asking about the weather and things along those lines. Every time he sent me some meaningless message it would bring back the pain. It brought me back to sitting down here explaining prime day to him while a beloved pet of mine was dying not far away and the just utter disregard for what he did. I cannot get over the lack of any humanity or soul inside of him. He didn't even fake caring about what he did. He didn't reach out and apologize for anything or even attempt to console anyone.

After 3 days of him pretending nothing has happened and constantly messaging me about nothing i send him a long message. outlining how much i loved that bird, explaining how he's acted since killing it has upset me, and asking for a short period of some space because messaging him reminds me of the conversation we had as something i loved so dearly was dying.

He immediately flipped out calling me insane and telling me to man up. I saw 3 more messages along those lines before I decided to block him. I genuinely didn't think i could find a way to escape the parental connection i had with him. Ive tried NC before but after a year he went to rehab and the rest of my family who are massive enablers for him bullied me into resuming contact. Seeing that there is genuinely nothing human inside of him helped me in a way. That last bit of hope that i had of having a father is dead i think.