How wrong am I?

I was born/raised in the West. Never been to Pakistan, but my father was born there. I'm not interested in marrying a Muslim, never have been. My dad was born/raised Muslim. He is upset that I don't want to marry someone such that I'd have to go back and visit their country, if the country is an Islamic country that is. He said that my children (I don't have children) would have the right to go visit the country of their heritage and acted like I'm depriving the children (who I don't have) that right. Look, I don't even have children, so that's a moot point. I'm not interested in visiting an Islamic country because I don't even want to spend a single week under an Islamic government. Maybe I'm supposed to tolerate it? He's offended that I won't marry someone with whom I'd have to back and visit Pakistan. He doesn't believe that the spouse could say one day "I want to go back." (Go back as in move back)

I have bitter feelings toward my father when this topic comes up.

Anyway - I do worry that I struggle with hatred, and I hope that this isn't truly what is going on with me. After decades of trying to be sold the "sales pitch" of Islam, my brain is damaged (not biologically) by psychological trauma IMHO. I'm trying not to make myself look too much like a victim who can't do anything to improve myself.