Lack of kinky lesbian rep/spaces

I dunno, this is just me throwing my thoughts out there without much filter, but it's killing me how sanitized lesbian spaces often end up being online and in person. (if there are spaces for us at all.)

Like the whole "uwu soft handholding and cuddling" thing is cute and all, but when it's Every space I come across it's kind of exhausting, especially when it is an adult community.* And a ton of places where more nsfw talk IS allowed, it still often gets met with a sort of "uhuh... weird e.e anyways!" vibe

Kink and sex and everything are such a huge part of my identity, and sometimes it feels like I'm hiding who I am just by way of not having places to talk about this yk? And when there is a place for it, it's usually not a lesbian specific place and I get dudes being like "woah, you're into x AND y?! You just get better and better" (basically direct PM I Got from a kink/fetish site lmao)

Like obvs this isn't me shitting on anyone, or any spaces, that's not my intent at all.

It's just so. Ech. Yknow.

I need to just start going to munches or something

*nothing wrong with this on it's own