I finally reached my breaking point with her

A couple of days ago, I decided to end things with the girl I was dating since October, after feeling dismissed, unimportant, lonely and ultimately manipulated by her behavior during our reconciliation. To give some context, we had broken up a while ago because she felt things became too emotional too quickly, and she believed I needed to work on my insecurities. After some time apart, we reconnected and started seeing each other again, and in the beginning, it seemed like she genuinely wanted to work on our issues.

But as time went on, I began noticing patterns that made me feel like her effort was fading. One of the most hurtful moments was when she told me she didn’t miss me while she was away last weekend. I tried to address this and other concerns by clearly communicating my thoughts and needs. I wrote her a detailed message expressing how her behavior was making me feel and what I needed from her moving forward.

Her response was disappointing. While she offered a small apology, she quickly became defensive, shifting the blame onto my insecurities and refusing to take responsibility for her actions. It felt like my concerns were dismissed, and she deflected accountability for the role she played in the issues we were facing.

That was the breaking point for me. I realized that while I’ve been trying to grow, work on myself, and address the challenges in our relationship, I wasn’t getting the same effort or emotional accountability from her. It became clear that staying in this dynamic wasn’t healthy for me.

Ending things was incredibly difficult because I had really hoped we could rebuild and move forward. But I also couldn’t continue in a relationship where I felt invalidated and like my needs were being overlooked.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? How do you cope with the disappointment of realizing that a reconciliation isn’t working, despite your best efforts? I’d appreciate any advice or insights from those who’ve been in a similar situation.