Husband and I can’t agree on where to live

I have an amazing husband who I really love. We get along well, he makes me laugh, helps around the house and with the dog, he’s overall a great guy. There’s just one major problem in that we want to live in completely different places.

4 years ago, we moved cross country from my preferred location to his hometown and I really regret it. I don’t like this location and desperately want to move back to where I lived before. He absolutely refuses to move and shuts it down when I even bring up the conversation. This is the one issue in the relationship where I feel like I’m sacrificing my needs and having to compromise on where I want to live, while he gets everything he wants. This is causing me to feel a lot of resentment.

I’m currently spending a month away from him in my desired location and it just solidifies that I want to live here. I wish I could convince him to move here, but I know he would be unhappy with that. I love him and don’t want to leave him but sometimes think about divorce so I can live in my desired location. It feels wrong to choose a place over a person but he’s basically doing that to me by refusing to move away from his hometown.

I feel resentful because being with him means I have to live in a place I don’t like. We could consider some sort of long distance relationship but that feels complicated and seems like a big compromise as well. I just wish we both wanted to live in the same place.

We don’t have kids and I’m scared to have one because that would trap me in a location I don’t like. Would love to hear perspectives on what to do in this situation? Does wanting to live in different places mean we are fundamentally incompatible?

TLDR: I love my husband but I feel like I have to sacrifice on where I want to live in order to be with him.